Learning to Find Joy in Our Journey

Hi, friends. Patience can be difficult, I know this firsthand. To say I am impatient might be an understatement. Waiting at a traffic light can feel like an eternity for me, and I am sure I am not the only one that feels that way. I want things done now, and I want to be in control of every situation.  I am a planner and a list person. I struggle with uncertainty and all the unknowns of life. Because of this, I have been let down on more than one occasion. Over the years, I have learned that I can only control myself, I can’t control the things around me, and most importantly, I can’t control Gods plans for me. He has a plan and all I have control over is how I respond to that plan. You might be surprised to know my life has not gone as I had planned. I like to think God has a sense of humor and laughs at “my plans” and whispers be patient and trust me, I got this. I know life is full of so many journeys, some difficult and some beautiful. Each moment, each experience, and each event no matter how hard or wonderful it may be is a storyline of experiences that are influential and important in our development. I know that there is a bigger plan and that Heavenly Father knows what he is doing. I think if there is anything I have learned through our trials, it is a greater trust in that plan. Trusting in that plan is what brings me happiness. Today, I made a list that has helped me find joy in our journey, and I hope the list will be helpful to you as well.

  1. Remember God is in charge. He is not surprised by your circumstances. He knows you better than you know yourself and he is in complete control. He wants you to be happy and find joy. If you struggle to see this, ask God to open your eyes and heart so you can see him in your circumstances. I know through experience in the midst of a trial it can be difficult to feel him, so ask for his help in opening your heart and mind.
  2. Focus on what you can learn from the experience and how it can help you become better. Each trial is God shaping and refining you into the individual he knows you can become.
  3. Don’t focus on the past, live in the present and look forward to the future. I am choosing to learn from my past, but I am always excited for what the future holds. I have learned to look forward to life’s unknowns.
  4. Live with a grateful heart. Don’t take the little things for granted. You will look back and realize they were big.
  5. Trust. Learn to trust your journey. This can be difficult, but if you choose to trust rather than question it will bring such greater happiness.
  6. Give Service! When I am feeling down, or want to focus on myself, I serve. Service can be hard, but I have never left a service opportunity and wished I hadn’t done it. It has always helped me through the most challenging times, and I quickly realize my trials are small compared to so many others.
  7. Ask for help. This is one of the hardest ones for me, but there are people looking for opportunities to serve and are wanting to help you…Let them! It is perfectly fine to ask and need help.
  8. Don’t sweat the small stuff. It is easy at times to get worked up, don’t! Life is too short to stress about the little things. I promise you will look back one day and laugh that you let it bother you.
  9. Lastly, pray. Get on your knees and pray.  Even if I don’t get an answer, prayer always brings me comfort and peace when I am struggling the most. We are all worthy to talk to our Heavenly Father. He is waiting and anxious to talk with you.

These are just a few of the ways I have learned to find joy in my journey.  Each of our journeys is unique. Our life experiences are different. We each have the opportunity to choose how we face our journey and what we chose to focus on.  I pray we can all Find Joy In our Journey and be supportive of one another.

Please share how you have found joy amidst your difficulties.



  1. Kim Farnsworth schroeder 3 years ago

    Dear Ashley,
    You may not remember me. We grew up in the same stake. I’m Kimberly Farnsworth. As I read your story today I’m humbly grateful for your example of faith and endurance. How magical it is that you can continue your journey of faith in the Lord as that amount of loss would drive so many away from the truth. Not you and now you are sharing with others.
    We all experience pain…but your story today brings tears that have so much meaning. I have one child and am endlessly grateful for him but for some time now I have longed for another. I need to continue to remember how lucky I am.
    My heart is full today and I know my relationship with the Lord needs to be strengthened. I thank you for your example and willingness to share. I will practice faith today and remember your story forever.
    May God bless you and your family through this adoption journey.
    Thank you and sending prayers your way!

    You are absolutely beautiful and have wings of your own. Your story is angelic and inspiring! Keep going.

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    ironwildflower 3 years ago

    Of course, I remember you. My husband and I live in the ward you grew up in now. We love it there. You have an incredible family. I am so happy we connected and you found me here. Your thoughts were so kind and touching. I feel honored that my words connected with you and may have helped you in some way. Unfortunately, we all experience great pain in this life, but I know it is because our Heavenly Father loves us and wants us to become better. I am sorry that your second child has not come yet. Infertility and the longing for a child is difficult at any stage, not matter the circumstances. Whether you have children or not, the longing for more is such a deep hurt. I hope we can practice faith together. Mine has to be strengthened all the time. Thank you for your kind words, thoughts and prayers. It means more than you know. I hope you continue to follow along, and I would love to connect. If you ever need someone to talk to, I would love to. I wish you all the best.

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